Oh Hey, 2018

Alright you guys, I know I’ve been a little MIA lately. I made the choice to unplug over the holidays. I have to say it’s the best choice I’ve made in a while. As much as I love you all here and all you insta babes, I love my babes more. (sorry not sorry) Time off my phone and off social media meant spending more time with the boys enjoying every little thing about them. It felt so refreshing to really be present with them this holiday.

The beginning of  a new year is prime opportunity to reflect on what you’ve learned and experienced in 2017 and how you would like to grow in 2018. It’s safe to say there were highs and lows but overall it was a very memorable year. Highlights of my 2017 would include many firsts with the boys. We took our first family vacay to California, many baby milestones with Cruz including his first steps and celebrating his 1st birthday, Mike and I celebrated our second wedding anniversary, I turned thirty (no I’m not upset about it). I launched this blog and met so many wonderful and supportive mamas that have really become friends and some more like family. The hardest part of 2017 was losing my cousin Cory. This devastating loss is still hard to believe at times and doesn’t seem real.

On my little hiatus from insta I spent a lot of time really thinking about what I’d like the next 365 to look like. The start of a fresh year is always full of promises and resolutions that most people don’t follow through with or forget about after a few weeks or months. Instead of setting resolutions that will come and go I like to set intentions for myself so that is exactly what I have done. Originally I didn’t plan on sharing them with anyone but then I thought if I put them out there then I can hold myself accountable.

Setting Your Intentions For The New Year

 Try setting intentions that will help you live as the best version of yourself every single day. Setting intentions helps to focus your mind, prioritize what’s most important and start making transformations from within.

Here are a few tips for deciding on your intentions in 2018:

  • Sit alone and reflect on what parts of your life are most important to you. What brings you the greatest joy?  What fills you with a sense of purpose?
  • Make a list of your intentions, goals and desires. Share it with someone who will be supportive and help keep you focused.
  • Create a short mantra that will serve as your daily reminder. Use it during yoga, meditation and any other quiet moments when you can set your focus. ” I love my life ” or “I have the power to create change” are a couple examples.

The first thing to really resonate with me was balance. This year is all about finding the right balance in all areas of my life. Balance with family, friends, social media and most importantly me. I began to notice towards the end of 2017 how little I was doing for myself, my own health and my own happiness. I am really hard on myself and was seriously lacking in the self love department. Then I had to ask myself “how can I be the best mom, wife, friend, daughter or sister I strive to be if I don’t take care of myself?”

Getting back into the gym 2-3 times a week was the perfect start. Finding the right fitness routine that works for you can be intimidating. What works for someone else might not be the right fit for you. As I found myself settling back in to old routines at the gym I became motivated to push myself further. Over the past 3 weeks I’ve tried out several different types of classes at Oxygen Yoga & Fitness. Being back in the yoga studio feels so good for the mind and body. Getting a physical work out, leaving with such a positive outlook and clear mind is worth every 5am wake up. When I get up early and go to class I find myself so much more productive around the house. I notice I have more patience with the boys as well and in general feel a lot lighter spirited.

I’ve always eaten a healthy diet. As much as I love food I have been on some ridiculously restricted diets before for the sake of my children. As they outgrew their restrictions I have added those things back into my diet. I don’t deprive myself of treats or something “bad” for me. I think its good to indulge once in a while after all, we only live once, it’s about moderation. We will continue to create healthy eating habits for us and our boys this year.

Making more husband wife time is high on the priority list. I’m not quite sure what I did so right to end up with such a wonderful, supportive and caring man. He really stands behind me and supports me needing to spend more time on myself. He’s the first one to find a way to make it work for both of us to get our weekly work outs in. Always juggling all the boys sports, activities and routines on top of his own work. Life gets busy and I honestly feel guilty that we don’t get more quality time alone to connect, nurture our relationship and grow together as a couple. Starting off this year I have set us up with some couples cooking class date nights. Trying something new might be fun. I mean how could it not be? There will be food and we won’t have the kids asking for 100 different things before we even sit down to eat! Our wedding anniversary is this also this month. 3 years married and almost 7 together.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in insta life. It becomes habit to open that little app every single time I pick up my phone. Being more present this year is really important to me. No this does not mean I am leaving any of you. You’re stuck with us *kiss kiss*.

It just means my time with my kids is going to be a lot more unplugged. I want to really get down on their level and experience each stage of their lives. Each of them have such different interests, strengths and weaknesses. I want to be front row cheering them on, teaching them, lifting them up without my phone in one hand. (unless I’m recording them then totally fair game). Part of this is also stressing less about the mess they make. NO this does not mean our house can look like a bomb went off- hello OCD is real over here. I want them to be responsible for their things and appreciate the stuff they are lucky enough to have. I have a plan for this so I will put it together, test it out and if it works I will share it here in a later post!

As for my friends, new and old I love you all. You motivate and inspire me on the daily. I hope you all know my door and my heart are always open for you. Being at different stages of our lives, single, in relationships, married and having kids can cause distance in some friendships. I’m going to make a stronger effort to keep in touch more often and let those I care about know it. Communication goes both ways but sometimes you just have to make the first gesture. Yes this totally means more girls nights just like old times.

My insta goal for 2018 is to hit 10k. To continue to connect with amazing mamas from all over. To lift one another up and grow together in 2018.

Set goals, smash the shit out of them, clap for your damn self and repeat.

2018 – We have a lot of work ahead of us. Let’s do this! Remember every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.

xoxo

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Community Over Competition

Women Supporting Women

This is something that has really been on my mind lately. A few months ago I struggled in a situation where I felt like I was being cyber bullied by someone I know in my heart I went above and beyond for as a friend. I take a lot of pride in being a loving, genuine and generous friend. Those of you that know me know I am first in line to offer my help, lend a hand or teach others.

I won’t get into details about that situation because then I would be wearing the same shoes that person wore when they walked all over me. Writing this post gives me mixed feelings because it’s not to satisfy myself and it’s definitely not to satisfy any bullies out there. It’s to raise awareness that if you are experiencing something similar, you are not alone.

“when a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.”

After having two separate conversations lately where people I know and care about have gone through similar scenarios it really made me think about why this keeps happening? Enough cattiness. Enough treating people poorly. We as women and moms need to come together. We need to support one another. In doing so we are stronger, we are better and we can fight harder for what is right.

Let’s all be in one big girl squad where everyone can be a part of it and no one is excluded. Yup you heard me, everyone. This isn’t high school, this isn’t a clique where you have to do a certain thing or look a certain way. Let’s look at one another as equals because we all deserve that. We all have feelings.

“The truth is that once you’ve been bullied, you always wonder about peoples’ intentions and trust is hard and feels unnatural. Once you’ve seen and felt for yourself how cruel people can be, your perspective of people is forever altered and your instincts to be cautious are on high alert”

3 Steps to Help Someone Who is Bullied.

  1. Listen
  2. Encourage them to talk
  3. Remember that healing takes time

In relation to social media I think a lot of this negativity comes from their own insecurities or dare I say it jealousy. What is suppose to be a community is being turned into competition. Don’t spend your time comparing yourself to others. Try to avoid thoughts like ” How did that photo get so many likes?” or “I’ll be as good as so and so if I collaborate with that company too.”

Instead allow yourself to be creative and different while staying true to yourself. If you consume yourself with what everyone around you is doing you will be the only one left behind while everyone else reaches new successes. Always remember, it doesn’t matter what other people think and hard work always pays off.

” You can always tell who the strong women are. They are the ones you see building each other up instead of tearing each other down”

Community Over Competition

So, how do you embrace competition? Ask yourself what this means to you?
Community over competition means acknowledging that the whole point of life is *not* to be “the best” at anything, really, beyond being the best YOU. It means using your time to serve others via what you do best, lifting them up even higher than you’ve been lifted yourself. Building others up does not bring you down. Helping someone out does not inherently hurt you. Light only gets brighter by being shared.

” Find your tribe. Love them hard”

Community Over Competition + Blogging

Embrace your community like its your job because in a way, it is. As bloggers our whole schtick is to create a supportive online community. Give of yourself expecting nothing in return. Don’t expect people to follow you back, or exactly reciprocate whatever you do for them. That’s NOT relationship building – that’s mooching and trying to manipulate the system. It’s fake. And at the end of the day…it’s useless.

Long term growth and success only comes from genuine giving – building genuine relationships. Friendships built solely on tit for tat things, I hate to break it to ya: will not pass the test of time.

I would rather put in the effort and time to be a person with real, lasting friendships, and a real, genuine community, whose journey takes a little longer, than someone lacking friends and lacking community who “arrives” much faster than I do.

Community over competition means giving, giving, giving, knowing that karma uuuuusually comes full circle, but not expecting her to right this very second. By helping others you can simultaneously grow into your bigger, better, best self.

” In a world full of look at me girls be a come with me girl “


( Babes supporting babes sweater worn by me can be purchased here. Boss Babe sweater worn by Nikolina – Owner and Maker behind Pacific Knot can be purchased at Minted Method Shop. Arm knit blankets are coming soon to Pacific Knot and you can check her out on IG here in the mean time)

Thank you to the amazing babes that have welcomed me into their community. I am blessed and beyond honoured to call you my friends. Some of you have even become more like family. Stay kind and continue to celebrate each others successes without questioning our own. Cheers babes!

xo

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Who run the world?

Well the quick answer is GIRLS. Don’t tell the cute assistant sitting next to me I said that though because he totally knows he runs my world.

The reason we as women are so strong is because of our ability to band together and take on anything. Motherhood, life, work, relationships, fitness, we all inspire one another to set new goals for ourselves in different areas of our busy lives.

I would like to sincerely thank all of the incredible mamas we have met over the past 10 months since we started @adventuresofcruz. When I first started his rep page I never dreamt it would be where it is today, and while it may seem small to many of you, all of the love and support we have received has blown me away. It’s really true when they say behind every successful woman is a tribe of successful women who have her back – so cheers to us!  Every single one of you have warmed my heart and for that I will be forever grateful.

Which brings me to this blog. I have always thought about starting my own creative space to share my fav products and talk about topics I really enjoy like motherhood, parenting, relationships, pregnancy, baby, design, decor, health and beauty and you will find it all here (eventually – this is still a work in progress).

Special shout out to the babes (you know who you are) who inspired me and gave me the push I needed to move more into a lifestyle space and create this blog. Women helping women, babes supporting babes, lifting each other up and not down is something I am extremely passionate about so if ANY of you need a friend, someone to talk to, advice, help or pretty much anything I am your girl. Don’t forget it! After all real queens fix each others crowns.

Until next time

xo

 

 

 

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